SPIDER AND WORM

Quantum Hypnosis and the Message of Building Couple Relationships

There was a black spider that lived in a cave. It hardly ever ventured out because it thought it was ugly and didn’t want to go anywhere. In reality, it wasn’t ugly, just a normal spider like any other, but it always thought otherwise.

One day, the spider came across a caterpillar. The caterpillar looked carefree, fresh, and innocent. The spider really liked it, so it captured the caterpillar and tied it to a rock, not too tightly so that the caterpillar could still wriggle. The caterpillar struggled, thinking, “Oh, life is over now, the spider is going to eat me.” Every day, the spider came to the caterpillar, bringing it water to drink—a clear, sweet water—and even threw a few pieces of meat, which looked delicious. The caterpillar ate it, enjoying the food, but still worried, thinking the spider was fattening it up to eat later. But day after day, the spider never ate it, which made the caterpillar curious. There was even a day when the caterpillar had a fever, and the spider gently patted its head.

Finally, the caterpillar’s curiosity peaked, and it asked the spider, “Why did you capture me and not eat me?” The spider replied that it didn’t capture the caterpillar for food, but because it saw how carefree and joyful the caterpillar was, and the spider wanted to be friends, to keep the caterpillar in the cave so that it could stay with it forever. The caterpillar was touched and said, “You’ve been so kind to me. I’ll be your friend and won’t go anywhere. I’ll just stay in the cave.” The spider agreed and untied the ropes.

Message from this Story:

The story of the spider and the caterpillar carries a deep message about relationships, especially in the context of couples. The spider’s initial perception of itself—thinking it was ugly—led it to avoid social interactions, much like people who fear rejection or feel unworthy in relationships. The caterpillar, on the other hand, represents a carefree and open attitude, drawing the spider in.

The key lesson here is the importance of creating trust, understanding, and safety in relationships. The spider, initially driven by its own insecurities, eventually finds connection through kindness and genuine care, not out of control or manipulation. True connections are built when we stop focusing on our fears or perceived flaws and start appreciating the simple, authentic bonds with others. The caterpillar’s response—accepting the spider’s kindness and offering friendship in return—shows how vulnerability and openness lead to the formation of meaningful connections.

In couple relationships, it’s essential to foster an environment of trust and mutual respect, just like the spider and caterpillar. Understanding and accepting one another, despite insecurities or past experiences, creates a deep bond that allows both individuals to grow and support each other.

The caterpillar lived with the spider in a cave, never going anywhere. Inside the cave, there were two underground streams flowing into two pits. One pit contained clear, cool water that the spider would bring to the caterpillar to drink. The water dripped in slowly, and it took a long time to collect enough for a sip, but the spider always made sure to give the caterpillar this water when it was tied up. The other pit, however, contained a lot of murky water that looked unappealing. The caterpillar was deeply moved and felt sympathy for the spider. The two of them lived together happily in the cave. The caterpillar had no complaints about the spider, but after a while, it began to miss the outside world. It longed to see a green leaf, to smell the fresh air. It missed it terribly.

One day, the caterpillar asked the spider if it could go outside for a while, to wander and breathe in the fresh air because it had missed the outside so much. It promised it would return to the spider because it cared for the spider. The spider hesitated but agreed because it liked the caterpillar. The caterpillar, delighted to leave the dark cave after so many days, felt immense joy. It had always liked going out and never imagined it would stay in a cave for so long. It danced happily under the sunlight, ran past trees, feeling completely free and joyful—an ease it hadn’t experienced in a long time. When the time came to return to the cave as promised, the caterpillar hesitated. It wasn’t ready to go back and decided to keep exploring. It went a little farther, thinking it was fine to be a bit late—it would still return to the spider. And so, it went a little farther.

Until the caterpillar had explored enough and felt satisfied with the outside world, it decided to go back to the cave. But, alas, when it entered the cave, it froze and sat down, crying uncontrollably. There, on the stone floor, was the dried corpse of the spider. The spider had died. The caterpillar hadn’t been gone for long, but the spider waited for it all day, longing and withering away in sadness, until it finally passed. The caterpillar cried all its tears, and with a dry throat, it went to the pit for water. It found the sweet water pit full to the brim, while the murky one was dry. The caterpillar cried even harder. It realized that the spider had always drunk the dirty water, saving the clean water for the caterpillar. It didn’t know when the caterpillar would return, but it always wanted to have enough fresh water for it. The caterpillar was deeply moved and felt immense sorrow for the spider.

I invited the teacher of the two creatures to come and remind them. The teacher was an old man with snow-white hair. He said, if they wanted to stay together for a long time, they had to listen carefully:

• The caterpillar must learn to balance between what it likes and the responsibility to take care of the spider. It shouldn’t be so focused on its own desires that it forgets the other.

• The spider must learn to share its joys with the caterpillar. Sometimes, it’s okay for both of them to go outside the cave and have fun. Not only will it make the caterpillar happy, but the spider will also have new, fun experiences outside the cave. The teacher scolded more seriously, saying, “You foolish spider, dying for no reason. That naive caterpillar can’t go too far anyway =)). You just needed to step out of the cave, wander around a bit, and you’d surely find it and bring it back. Why stay gloomy in the cave and dry up like this =))?” (Listening to the teacher’s scolding, it makes sense because the caterpillar doesn’t have legs, so it couldn’t wander far like the spider, who has many legs =))).

The teacher’s lessons were both practical and amusing, making the caterpillar cry uncontrollably while also laughing. Then, I asked what the two creatures did in the cave to enjoy each other’s company. Well, it turns out that the spider was very passionate about food, which is why it managed to find the finest meat for the caterpillar. The caterpillar could share its love for food with the spider. As for the caterpillar, it loved rubbing its legs clean (since it didn’t have legs), but the spider, having more legs than expected, made it a little tiring for the caterpillar to clean. But it still did it with joy.

P/s: A fun little message for all couples out there!